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Verbal language can hide the truth, body language cannot

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We are not able to detect lies often told by others. People deliberately give false information or misleading account of an event or experience, hide their emotions from being known or conceal their motives in daily conversations. Their dishonest talk or deliberately ambiguous words are meant to deceive. They can get away with complete verbal fabrications but their body language cannot.

Body language cannot lie. It communicates directly a person’s feelings. Someone who appears nervous can say they are nervous or they can choose to be silent about it. Either way is of no significance. Their body expresses openly their nervousness. The body reveals a person’s emotions automatically and frankly, and much more.

Anyone including a child can tell an account of something that is fanciful and difficult to believe, yet there are people who can be convinced by the glib account. The body is not provided with the natural ability to deceive. It is always truthful in its expression of emotions and thoughts. Anyone who tells a tale may assume a credible appearance but their body may act otherwise.

Learning the body language helps us to recognize whether someone is telling the truth or whether they believe in what they are saying. Their body language also reveals how they feel at the moment. It in fact displays a range of emotions quite contrary to what we would expect from the content of his speech.

It makes dealing with people a lot easier when we study and understand their hidden emotions. They may express reluctance, disagreement, disapproval, etc when an issue is touched on but their body language gives a different expression. This could very well be evidence that they are driving a hard bargain. In other words, they are expecting a lot more in exchange for what we are willing to pay or do.

We can deliberately use body language to give us the strength and confidence to present the kind of appearance in support of what we want from the other party? We can assume an appearance of friendliness, loyalty, and credibility. But this should not be done at their expense or with an ulterior motive.

Some of the telltale signs of body language are as follow:

  • Direct eye contact indicates they are interested in what you are saying.
  • Avoidance of eye contract is a sign that they are hiding something, or lack of confidence.
  • The head supported on the hand indicates they are bored.
  • Nodding indicates interest and agreement.
  • Looking around is a sign that they want or are ready to leave.
  • When their hands are open and palms open upwards, they convey truthfulness and openness.
  • When they speak with their hands tucked in their pocket, it’s an indication that something might be hidden.
  • Hidden palms indicate something is held back.
  • A firm handshake conveys confidence. A limp handshake means submission.
  • Hands on the hips show a defiant, commanding demeanour.