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The person with the most flexibility controls the system

NLP Presuppositions
The person with the most flexibility will have more choices and therefore have the most influence in any system. A choice is better than no choice and more choices are certainly better than less choices. Similarly, if what you are doing is not working, do something else. This highlights the need to change one’s behaviour and do something else, again and again if need be, until the desired outcome is achieved. In other words, one must be able to change readily to meet new circumstances.

NLP presupposes that every one of us is responsible for our own life. We may not be able to control external events but we are capable of controlling our reactions and response to those events. If we keep reacting and responding in the same way, we will always get the same result. A person with flexibility will change repeatedly his behaviour whenever something he is doing is not working. He changes to trying something new until he achieves his goal.

Flexibility applies as much to our behaviour as to our thought. Rigid attitude or thinking reduces the desired outcome in our interaction with other people. When successive attempts at wooing a member of the opposite sex fail to gain headway, is it not time to switch tactic? This NLP presupposition applies to business organizations as well. In any work place flexibility in management and individual employees encourages productivity and contributes to a harmonious working environment.

Always be flexible enough to explore and search for an appropriate strategy whether for a better life or a better learning habit rather than being continuously stuck with something in the present that does not work. It’s patently obvious that if you want something new, you have to do something new and anything new could well be better than maintaining what is not working.

Changing our behaviour is not all that difficult when we believe there are many alternatives which we can choose and that a solution to every difficulty is always available. We just need to be prepared to try hard to seek it out. All one needs is being flexible.