|NLP Techniques - The power of words and beliefs|
Beliefs control our behaviour, and exert considerable influence on our life adversely or otherwise.. We act based on our beliefs, thinking they are true. As long as we believe we cannot do something, our belief acts as an inhibition and we are unlikely to do it. Even if we try, our chances of succeeding are pretty low given the negative belief implanted in us. The reverse is also true. If we believe we are capable of a deed and go ahead and do it, the outcome is likely to be successful. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy in action. This is similar to treating someone as if they are intelligent and they are likely to be so.
Beliefs serve as our mental filters. We interpret the external world in accordance with our beliefs. Anything that is contrary is not accepted as they do not support our beliefs unless they are of an exceptional quality. Beliefs dictate how we interact with other people. For example, if you believe someone does not like you, you will stay away from them or refrain from talking to them. In response, they prefer to remain distant and aloof, and so confirm your belief, even though they do not dislike you.
Over time our beliefs change. This is inevitable as we grow we are exposed to more external events and new experiences. These cause changes in our beliefs. We not only change our beliefs but create empowering ones as well. Beliefs influence our behaviour and if they produce positive results, we retain them or else we change them. At times, we replace limiting beliefs with suitable ones that greatly enhance the quality of our life. Changing limiting inner beliefs causes our behaviour to change for the better. This can have a significant effect on our being and lead to other positive changes. Erroneous beliefs too have serious or disadvantageous implications for us. It is therefore essential that we replace them so that the appropriate kind of beliefs is formed inwardly.
The more positive beliefs you have, the more the freedom of choice. More opportunities and possibilities await you. They enhance your chances of success. Limiting beliefs, on the other hand, limit choices and there is not much scope for success. Limiting beliefs are characterized by, ‘I can’t…’, ‘I shouldn’t…’ and ‘I mustn’t….’ Limiting beliefs are nothing more than habits that we have learned, and anything that is learned can be unlearned. A limiting belief therefore, like any habit, can be changed.
In NLP, you can choose and create your own empowering beliefs so that you can develop and exploit your potential to achieve all that you desire. However, belief changes may not last if you give up too soon. For example, with a better technique, it will take time for you to improve. Initially, you tend to be slow in what you do and your productivity may actually fall as you are not yet used to the new technique. If you become discouraged too soon and revert to the old method, it is highly likely that you believe you cannot improve, which is not the case.
Beliefs are a powerful motivating factor in our life. Having the right beliefs is therefore of paramount importance.