When you have a caring attitude, you do not want to do something wrong or bad. Yet you do. There are times when you say something stupid, insulting, or hurtful to someone else. There are also times when you could or should have done something for someone but didn’t. In most of these cases, there is no deliberate intention involved. Yet, you do not hesitate to feel the guilt or hurl accusations at your own self.
Sometimes you cannot stop experiencing a bad feeling of guilt or regret. Whether you go on dwelling on them or accusing yourself for not acting correctly, you fail to realize the tremendous harm it is causing you. Each time you play back the words you said or replay your wrongful actions you are in fact reliving the event and in the process filling yourself with greater remorse.
However bad your action or behaviour was, no amount of self-accusation, guilt or remorse will undo the wrong committed. It serves only as a painful reminder which is best forgotten the soonest possible for your own well-being. The best course of action to take is to acknowledge what you have done, treat it as a lesson to learn and endeavour never to repeat it. If you can so easily and readily forgive others who have wronged you, you should be able to do the same to yourself. Forgiving yourself frees you from the negative thoughts so that you can carry on with your life.
Let’s not what happened in the past, which you cannot change, adversely affect the kind of life you want to live in the present. The past is gone and should be buried. Strive instead for a prefect present and a happy future.